Archive for August, 2014

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Friday morning, August 22, I will be on AZTV-7’s Morning Scramble with Sandy Moss at 8:30A.M. Here’s the link to watch live: http://www.aztv.com/category/195810/scramblelivestream

Friday, August 22, I will be interviewed by Sandy Moss on the Morning Scramble on AZTV-7 in Prescott, Arizona. I will post a live feed here on my blog. The show airs 8-9A.M. mountain time.

12Aug

Acceptance

When you meet someone do you see them as they are or do you see them as they could be? If that person were to stay the same weight, make the same money and never “improve”, could you accept them as is? One of the best pieces of relationship advice I ever heard is to accept someone as is and not for their potential. Having a relationship with someone for who they might be down the road is a recipe for failure.

We must also learn to accept ourselves and love ourselves just the way we are. If we don’t like the way we are, how could we possibly expect someone else to?

 

Once we have found someone who find find to be sufficiently attractive, then we must take a look at the person’s attitudes. Are they similar to ours? The greater the similarity to ours, the greater the attraction and satisfaction in a long-term relationship. So what can we do to increase our chances of finding someone with similar attitudes?  Try frequenting places where you might find people of similar interests, like a coffee shop, gym or a class.

Why do we place so much importance on attractiveness? As a society, we value good looks and feel that if it looks good on the outside, it must also be good on the inside. We also feel that better social skills are associated with someone who is attractive and that we might benefit socially from associating with them. Also, don’t  we feel that we deserve to be with someone who is attractive?

In reality, the most attractive woman are approached the least, most men finding them too intimidating. The most successful guideline for a long-term relationship would be to choose someone who has the same level of attractiveness as yourself.

 

We make judgements on whether or not we find someone attractive in 150 milliseconds. That initial decision will not change no matter how long we get to know that person. We also tend to choose people based on how much they resemble us or a close relative.

Did you know that when it comes to choosing a mate, we subconsciously look for someone with a perfectly symmetrical face? With symmetry comes better genes and a better immune system, or so we think. Humans are not alone in this choice as apes choose partners based on symmetry as well. Body symmetry is important, but not nearly as important as facial symmetry. If we look at the faces we admire in our modern culture, the interest in perfect symmetry will hold true, and it also holds true through history.